Hi, I’m Daphne. I’m a blessed mother of five, four live here with me and one in heaven.  I am a wife to my hardworking husband. After a long career in law enforcement and after losing my daughter, I’m proud to say that now I work from home writing, raising my four other children and running a non-profit in memory of my daughter.

This July will mark ten years since we lost our firstborn child, 5-year-old daughter Lydia, in a car accident. Since then, my husband Jake and I, found our strength in connecting with others who are on this unknown journey of grief.  We have had the opportunity to meet some amazing people, who like us, want the world to remember their loved one and who have given their talents while dedicating their new lives to helping others who are walking this heartbreaking path.

LydiaAs a bereaved parent myself, I know firsthand how important it is to keep your child’s memory alive and to honor their life. Seven years ago, God led us to bring joy to children, in memory of our daughter, which has been a blessing and given us a new purpose in life.

After coming to terms with our loss and using the healing power of time to our advantage, the clouds have parted and the sun is able to shine again.

Throughout my journey of grief, I have kept a journal. Now after years have passed, I can clearly see how God has shaped my life and brought me where I am today.  The signs have been plentiful and God has spoken to me, wanting me to share the incredible wonders he has worked in my life.  From painfully closing doors, to relationships with people intended to guide my path,  leaps of faith to opportunities, there is so much to share that I’m sure that those who have doubted Him, will doubt no longer.

It’s time to celebrate life and live with purpose while inspiring others and walking together in this journey.  Walk with us as we highlight ways in which God has transformed lives, from the dark side of grief to the sweeter side.  Won’t you join us?

In addition, please visit our Grief Diaries Village to find inspirational stories from others who have been there. This is an incredible movement of broken hearts sharing personal struggles and experiences on many types of grief. Have a story or message to share, wanting to ignite hope in others? Join the village!

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    1. Oh thank you. I loved reading about Simon. Such an adorable and brave little guy. What a wonderful inspiration you and Simon are to others. Would you mind if I post about you, Simon, and your book sometime? Blessings to you. (sorry it took me too long to reply, I’m new to the blogging world!)

      1. i just had to say i’ve had your tab up for several days now since u followed n i barely skimmed before following back, but i’m taking a sec today to read your “about me” section n i’m sure it’s NO coincidence that i’ve been praying the last day n a half for a local family who lost their 5 year old in a car accident on monday afternoon. i don’t know them, but God does, and this is a reminder to keep them covered in prayer. thanks n God bless! 🙂

      2. Oh I’m so glad you continued to read! No conincidence indeed. I will pray for that family. Blessings on your work as well. You are very inspiring!

    1. Thank you so much. I love reading your recipes and hearing about your wonderful son William. Such a unique and amazing way to honor him. So sorry for your loss. Your writing brings comfort to so many.

  1. Thank you for finding my blog & for introducing me to yours! I look ahead to your postings. Aside from my You are always in my Heart blog on WP, I also honor those who have gone before us with annual tributes in July that can be found on facebook. If you are on FB…please visit Celebrate in UNITY & let me know if you would like to join us! {{{hugs}}}

  2. Thank you for coming by my blog and for the follow. I am glad you did because I followed you back to your lovely blog. I love your courage and your positive attitude the posts I have read so far are very inspiring. I look forward to reading more of your blog.

  3. Thank you for your visit and Follow. As it turned out today I spoke to 2 grandchildren about life and death. They lost their family pet this morning and are going through a sorrowful time with their great-grandmother on her death bed. While we grieve we also treasure the memories we have of those we have lost.

  4. What a heart-wrenching yet amazing journey you have been and are on. I have no doubt God will use you and your story for great things and to touch many lives through your faith and journey. God bless you.

    1. Oh thank you Angelina. I look forward to following your blog and seeing how God has worked in your life as well! We all have a story to tell.

  5. I am so happy you came across my blog so that I could come back to yours. Your example of inspiration and hope is what I am trying to be. Looking forward to getting to know you/

    1. Oh thanks for stopping by my blog as well. I look forward to sharing this journey with you. It’s nice to connect with others who are walking this same path. Blessings to you.

  6. Hi,

    I came across your story on facebook which led me to your blog. I don’t have a blog but my 10 yr old son, D’Angelo, fell thru an ocy sediment pond 4 months ago and drowned. D’Angelo was truly an angel on earth. Like your daughter he didn’t care what people thought and was always himself, despite his speech impairement and very small size. He lit up the room with his joy, laughter and big heart. He apoke to strangers and asked them genuinely how their day was. He was a blessing to me and I am devestated that he is no longer here with me. I listened to a song called Borrowed Angels and truly think my son was one. It is amazing to read atories of other unique, wonderful angels and it gives me hope that there is really a heaven and my son, all of our kids, are in a happy place and we will see them again someday. Thanks for sharing uour daughters story.

    1. Hi Nicole,
      I am so sorry to hear about your son. Losing our children is such a tragic event. I truly believe that our children are special angels and I too, love to hear about the amazing things that they do. Throughout my loss I have kept a journal and been able to look back and see just how angelic my Lydia was and how all the pieces of the puzzle finally connected. Thank you for sharing your son and finding my blog. I pray that God gives your comfort and blessings during this time.

  7. It’s so comforting to meet someone of a similar mind through loss. My faith was restored following my daughter’s death. We live in hope now. God’s grace is good and she using his care now. X

    1. You are so right! It does bring a sense of comfort connecting with those who hold a similiar faith. I, like you, have been restored through God’s grace. Your words are so real and straight from the heart, yet hopeful. I am glad we found each other, but so sorry we lost our beautiful daughters. While they are happy in the arms of the Lord, may we make them proud!

  8. Daphne, thank you for following. We have a shared outlook on the death of a child and coming to the bright side. I would like to send you free copy of my book, if you are interested. Good luck on your memoir. I sure it will touch many. Carol

    1. Carol, thank you for your kind words. I am so sorry for the loss of your son Chris. I would absolutely be honored to read your book. I just love hearing stories of faith and healing, and have a thirst to read stories about loss and living again. You are an inspiration! May I email you?

  9. Thank you so much for your words of inspiritation. You are an angel for others. I lost my Grandma on May 22nd. Life is a new journey I am hoping to be as kind, and generous as her. She was just like a Mom to me at times. Thank you again for being a blessing for me!!

    1. So sorry for the loss of your grandmother. How lucky you are to have been blessed to have such a great role model. What a beautiful inspiration she will continue to be for you! Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. Blessings to you on your journey.

  10. Daphne,
    I came across your story on Facebook on a Central grads page. I grew up there and my brother used to play football with Jake. Your story is heart-wrenching, beautiful and filled with hope all in one. I love what you have done in honor of your daughter. The blog and the non-profit. I am so glad I came across this today. You give hope to so many families. Bless you and your family.

    1. Hi there. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment and for your kind words. It’s so nice to connect with people from our past who support and join us along in our ever changing journey. Blessings to you also!

  11. I am so sorry about the loss of your beautiful little girl. Words fail me. I wrote about an amazing man here in Ireland who turned his grief into such a positive thing. He began a charity named after his daughter Aoibheann ( Irish for beautiful), called Aoibheanns Pink Tie. It is a charity to help the children on the chemo ward in the hospital in Dublin. If your interested in what he does, here it is. http://mythoughtsonapage.com/2014/03/27/aoibheanns-pink-tie-one-fathers-positive-response-to-the-loss-of-his-child/

    1. Oh how beautiful. Thank you for showing me Aoibheanns Pink Tie. What an increadible man and such an inspiration. I loved reading about this. So many amazing people, there’s no way to find them all! Thanks for visiting!

  12. Daphne, your heart and you loss and your faith, they inspire me. I can’t imagine coming through it all with your great faith and your desire to show love and the art of healing to others.

    I’ve nominated you for two awards that certainly speak to your blog. Please see my page for approval.

    1. Hi there. Thank you so much for reading my story. It makes me smile when others can see inspiration in their own lives as a result of my experiences. I am honored that you have nominated me for these awards, and I pray that I can continue to bring sunshine and hope to others. Blessings to you.

  13. I came on here to thank you for following my blog, but I’m seeing so much encouragement and courage in your words and your attitude that I will return the favor. I appreciate people who are genuine with their faith–in light of, not in spite of their circumstances. Your bravery and that of your family is not only heart-warming but inspirational. Thanks, Daphne. You give others hope in grief, hope in life, because you choose to rely on the Source of life.

    1. Oh your words are so encouraging. Thank you so much. I too, am moved by your blog. You have a refreshing voice about you. I especially love your statement that “but we are each a story, co-written with God, and where we are in our story is a reflection of all that has gone before that moment.” What a powerful statement that we should all remember. I could not walk my journey alone and am so excited to see where God is guiding me in the future and tell His story.

    1. What a wonderful bit of encouragement. Thank you very much. I appreciate your words and award hope I can continue to provide inspiration for others who may need it.Sometimes a few words is all it takes! Blessings to you too.

  14. You are not only an encourager but a giver of hope. My husband passed away unexpectedly last year and I am still struggling with coming to terms with it. Like you and your husband I find my strength – what I need for each day in our Lord. My heart goes out to you but I am sure your daughter is proud of what you are doing in bringing comfort and healing to others. God bless you and your husband. I am so glad Ellie nominated you – through God’s grace in answering a prayer He led me to you.

    1. Patty-Thank you so much for finding me. I too am sorry about the loss of your husband. When we find ourselves lost in sudden and unexpected grief, God is the only way. It’s taken me six years to finally see things full circle and realize the blessings we have been given. There is always hope and gifts in our grief, despite the deep pain and sadness. Hearing stories from others has been so healing for me as well. Blessings to you.

      1. God is indeed the only way, He has never left us and so many wonderful loving people have come into my life – I know He sends His servants to heal the brokenhearted. I lean heavily on His promise to never leave us – and am thankful for His Love for us. If one good thing could come of this it would be to serve Him by helping others to heal.

    1. Oh thank you Tammy for your kind words. I am overcome with inspiration from reading your blog. So refreshing and a beacon of light in the darkness you provide for so many! God bless you and your ministry.

  15. Thanks for the follow, your story is so moving. May God continue to heal you and use your family in a mighty way to minister to others in need. Looking forward to following your blog as well!!!

    1. Oh thank you for your kind words. I love your blog. Your words and passion are so inspiring and just what the world needs to hear..Words that can quench our thirst when we need it most. Looking forward to following your blog.

  16. Thank you so much for connecting with the Phone Tree. I genuinely look forward to learning more from you. Your experience, this amazing testimony, is unique and inspiring. I pray God’s best for you and yours as you heal daily and grow in love.

    1. I am so glad I came across Phone Tree. What an incredible inspiring ministry. Thank you for following me as well. I am eager to learn God’s word more in depth from your eloquent words. Thank you for your kind and gentle words of encouragement. Many blessings…

    1. Thanks for stopping by. I was intrigued by your blog and like how you include a variety of info! Avid reader of bible and non-fiction myself, I can see how I’m going to love your blog! Blessings…

  17. Thank you so much for following my blog because you following me led me to your blog. My heart and my prayers are with you. I admire your strength and your heart for GOD. (Psalm 46:5 NIV- GOD is within her, she will not fall.) GOD is with you and I pray that HE will watch over, protect, bless, and heal the hearts of you and your family. So glad that we connected! Infinite blessings to you always! 🙂

    1. Your words are so kind and encouraging. Thank you for following my blog as well. God is using us both in incredible ways and I look forward to following you. Blessings to you and your ministry.

  18. It looks like your writing is helping a lot of people in similar circumstances. That’s so great! Some things are so hard to be open about. And thank you for following my devotional blog. Blessings to you and your family!

  19. What a beautiful testimony you have, Daphne. We lost a child in the womb. I cannot imagine handing one back to God after five years. You are doing a good, healing work. Thank you for stopping by my blog. I’m delighted to have found you and excited to follow yours!

    1. Thank you, and I’m so sorry you too have experienced the pain of losing a child. It’s really just indescribable. Thank you for following along in my journey. It’s forever changing and never know what blessings will come our way when we least expect it!

  20. Your story is touching and faith-filled. As a hospice nurse, I worked with loss most of my 45+ year career. It does seem to me that those who do have a God-connection move through grief with a lot of serenity. And thank you for following me, Daphne.

    1. Thank you and bless you for your dedication to those at the end of life. It takes a special someone to provide such passionate and heartfelt care. God has given you a special gift. You are an inspiration to us all!

  21. I’m sitting here reading your blog and thinking what an amazing person you have become through your tragedy, with Gods’ help, of course. My daughter who has been through two deaths in the last four years, her only child and her husband. As a mother, I hurt so much seeing her struggle and hurting so much, and knowing all I can do is support her the best way I can. She is 44 and has been an alcoholic most of her life. My husband and I are Christians and brought both of our children up in church and have always prayed for them. My grandchild, who was almost 22, and the only one I had, died of a drug over-dose four years ago. My daughter found him lying in bed near death. He was rushed to the hospital where he was placed on life support for three days, then we were told he was brain dead, so the decision was made to let him go. My daughter had a very bad time trying to cope with this, so much that I can’t go into detail about. We both went to grief share, which helped some. Anyway, I’m sorry this is so long, I’m reaching out for help and direction, I guess, in ways that I can be more supportive. She wanted to become an advocate someway and speak about his addiction, but never did. Later on, she got married, since she had been divorced from his dad for many years. She would have celebrated four years in December 2014, but he had a massive heart attack in November. She had got saved in September 2014, praise God, and was delivered from being an alcoholic. On November 16th, 2014 ,she was baptized and later that day he passed away. She fell back into her old ways….now she is talking about going to griefshare again which is a good thing and getting back into church. She has so many questions that I can not answer. Again, I apologie that this was so long. I guess I’m trying also to reach out for answers or advice in how I can be more supportive.
    Thank you so much for your blog……maybe it would help my daughter if she could do this.
    From a mother that hurts for those that have lost their loved ones……Anna

    1. Dearest Anna, I am so very sorry for the heartache your family has endured. From your point of view, I cannot imagine what it’s like as a mother to see your child suffering like that. I am so glad you found my blog. I too, can understand how your daughter could regress into old habits and addictions after going through such horrible losses. I don’t know what it’s like to lose a husband, but unfortunately, I do know the loss of a child. It’s completely devastating and forever changes you. However, there is hope. God has given us hope. I struggled for a couple of years with guilt, shame and overwhelming grief. Life was dark and I felt hopeless and alone. However, I too was raised christian and I spent many nights sobbing on my knees to God to save me. I knew I couldn’t do it on my own. He was my ONLY hope. Slowly, God’s word spoke to me. Reading scriptures, attending support meetings,listening to christian music and connecting with people who had suffered the loss of a child was essential for me to be able make it through this. It’s never an easy road, but one that we can survive. I believe that God can turn tragedy into something beautiful. He has with me and he can with you all too. By focusing on the positive things, blessings, and giving thanks for the little things, it really makes a difference. You daughter must feel so alone and heartbroke. I would encourage her to join support groups, find others who have been down that road. Counseling also from someone who can relate is great too. I would say just be there for her to listen, encourage, every step made, no matter how small is progress and should be praised. Surround her with God’s love. Being able to share your story with others who understand is very healing. Does she have a journal to write her thoughts down? This was very helpful to me as well. Also, possibly doing something in memory of her son and/or husband would be helpful too. I’m sure they would want her to be happy, even though it’s so hard to do. Having someone recognize the loss and remember them means to much to the grieving. Thank you so much for reaching out and please, feel free to contact me any time. Prayers of strength and God’s grace to you both.-Daphne

  22. Sweet Daphne,

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. I have not experienced loss in the same way as you, but I know what it is like to have my heart broken. I have experienced two miscarriages, and look forward to the day when I will be able to embrace these precious ones. My family has also experienced several devastating losses through fostering. One little boy in particular, was a part of our family from the day he was born until he was 2 1/2. We were unable to adopt him because he was of Native descent, and we are not. We were promised ongoing contact by his adoptive mom, but she changed her mind. I know it is not the same, but my family was crushed – we loved him so much. Thank you for subscribing to my blog at incrementalhealing.wordpress.com – which is about a completely different kind of loss needing to be grieved in my life. I will follow here as well, and will strive to encourage you as best I can. I think it is beautiful how you are reaching out to others who have been devastated like you have been. God uses those who are willing in mighty ways.

    Much love to you,

    1. Dear Kamea, Thank you for finding my blog. I am so sorry for your miscarriages and losses. What a giving family you come from, adoption brings an amazing kind of love. I cannot imagine having to endure that kind of loss. I love your testimony of faith and your uplifting spirit after all you have gone through as well. Hopefully we can be supportive to each other through our journey and bring hope to others as well. Blessings and God’s love..-Daphne

  23. Hi Daphne, I’m so sorry you lost your little girl, Lydia, and I’m inspired by your courage in the face of what must have been utter horror. Thank you for visiting my blog and I’m off to have a look around yours now! Katie

    1. Hi Katie. Thank you for your sweet words. Glad to be following you on this journey we call life. Your blog is refreshing and inspiring! Look forward to getting to know you!

  24. Daphne, thank you for following my blog. It is sad that we must share a common bond with grief. My heart goes out to you and your family in the passing of your Lydia. She is a beauty. I applaud you for taking something so tragic and turning it to the good. You are a blessing to more people than you will ever know. I wish you well. We need each other along this rocky road. ~ Dale Jordan Heath…Brandon’s Mom

    1. I too am so sorry for the loss of your handsome Brandon and that we share this sacred journey of grief. Thank you for your uplifting words. You are so right, we need each other along this rocky road. Your words touch my heart deeply and inspire me as well as others. I look forward to learning more about your story and being blessed by your amazing ministry. -Daphne

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