To my friend…
I don’t know what to say other than, I’m so sorry. I don’t know the feeling of your loss and have no idea what that is like, but I can tell you from my own experience, the road of grief is not an easy one. Although our losses are different, they are alike in many ways.
What I do know is that in the coming months and years, there will be times that you will need a friend.
A friend like the one you were to me after my daughter died and my world came to a tragic end. I will never forget. Let all of us remember those “friends” who didn’t shy away from us during our loss, but instead put on their strong faces and poured out the compassion to hold us up and carry us through the storms of life.
You were …..
The friend that brought me an endless supply of delicious home cooked meals, flowers, and even baskets of goodies just for me.
The friend who came over to visit time after time to sit with me on the couch for hours, meanwhile understanding and not caring that the laundry was scattered all over the house, the dirty dishes overflowed from the sink, and that my entire house was a complete disaster.
The friend who spontaneously showed up on my door step during the holidays baring gifts for the entire family, complete with a Christmas tree and decorations, as you knew it was too painful for me to open those decorations from seasons past.
The friend who remembered the anniversary date of Lydia’s passing every year without fail.
The friend who would invite my son over to play when he needed it most.
The friend who took me to the doctor when my grief and anxiety became too much to handle and sat with me in the waiting room while I struggled to fight back my tears and catch my breath.
The friend who never judged me, or was afraid to be around me.
The friend who still lets me talk openly about my daughter, eager to hear about my inner thoughts, and doesn’t mind when my eyes tear up and I begin to cry.
The friend who worked endlessly for hours making me a priceless treasure, a beautiful scrapbook of my children and family.
The friend who has supported me in all my goals and given me much-needed advice and guidance in every aspect of life.
The friend who would tell me the truth even when I didn’t want to hear it, but needed to.
The friend who has acted as my guardian angel, knowing deep down what was best for me and helping me close doors that needed closing and given me the courage to open new ones.
The friend who has encouraged me to take those leaps of faith and helped deepen my spiritual self in ways never imagined.
After over 15 years of friendship, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for all you have done for me and my family. You have an enormous heart full of love and compassion.
You were there before, and also that horrific day, and you have never left my side.
With tears in my eyes as I write this letter, my heart hurts for you and the grief you are experiencing
I pray that God will give you strength, peace, and comfort in this frightening and lonely time.
You have raised the bar so high, I will do my best because you have shown me exactly the friend I want to be for you.
You’re in my thoughts and prayers…