I was listening to one of my favorite christian speakers this morning, filling my mind full of positive vibes and the message just happened to be about peace.
I reflected back on different times in my life when stress was high and peace was nowhere to be found. It reminded me how in the midst of grief we feel everything except peace. Grief accentuates the hard and often drudges up the past bringing to the forefront previous struggles and regrets, leaving us a hollow shell of fear and exhaustion.
When we are in deep grief, we carry around a heavinesses that’s hard to lift. We are often worried, angered, irritated, sorrowful, guilty, lost, vulnerable, worn,and everything else. Our minds are a jumbled mess trying to make sense of our indescribable pain, wondering how we can possibly survive. It’s a relentless cycle of detrimental thoughts and heightened feelings of anxiety and hopelessness.
That sounds awful but it’s reality. Initially after losing a loved one, grief is paralyzing, and rightly so. However, as time progresses, this is not how we were meant to live forever, nor how we want to live the rest of our days.
So what can we do to find peace in our daily lives, and learn to live with those huge holes in our hearts?
I have found that as time moves forward, if we believe, we can lighten the arduous load of turmoil in our lives. It takes discipline, determination, and faith.
We need to refuel our minds and bodies with God’s word while giving him our burdens to bear. Additionally, we must pay attention to the peace stealers in our life, identifying those things that stir up our inner discontent, fueling the stress and negative thoughts inside.
A while back, I went to the mountains and hiked to a lake. Not a cloud in the sky, it was a beautiful day spent with people and places who bring me peace.
There was a quiet in nature that day and I felt a stillness within me. Inhaling the fresh mountain air, hearing the birds singing and the crunching of twigs beneath my feet, it was a type of solace only the outdoors could bring.
My skin was hot from the sun. I was thankful for the relief of the cool breeze in the shade and nothing felt better than the refreshing chill of the lake. It was just what I had needed.
For me this photo stirred my senses, and brought me back to the feeling in this moment, the feeling I always want to have. Calm and contentment down to my core.
When was the last time you felt that?
Remember to do what makes your heart happy. Intentionally try to surround yourself with people, places, and things that calm the inner chaos of your mind and help mend your shattered heart. Those things that soothe our soul, grounding us, aiding in our rest and healing are a must.
Finding peace is essential to powering through this life with a grieving heart.
We all have it already inside us. We just need to acknowledge God’s hand and give our burdens to him..
Remaining peaceful helps us hear from God, feel the Holy Spirit, allowing us to find our answers to life’s struggles. It’s getting to the root of our soul, accepting our sorrow, and exposing our hurt while diminishing the strife in order to reboot our hearts.
No matter what challenges you are facing, amidst the trials and pain, you can find that inner peace to help you through.
Remember, God’s got you.
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you—not as the world gives, I give to you. Do not let your hearts be troubled, and do not let them be afraid.